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Question for Dr. Heidi: When did you know there was something wrong with your relationship?

Dr. Heidi, when did you know there was something wrong with your relationship?

Co parenting

He hasn’t contacted our 9yr old daughter is almost a week , what do I tell her ? Why do they cut contact with their own child just to hurt you ?


How do you protect your child from getting hurt by the narcissist parent. Do you just have to let them live and learn the hard way so you dont get blamed from keeping your child away from their dad. Or protect them and get blamed for keeping them away from thier dad?


When your ex doesn't want to let you go and still tries to kiss you and rub on you even though you have made it very clear that your not together no more and your just trying to co parent with them but then lash it out on you and doesn't want to be Included in your child's school or life just because you set that boundary with them and don't fall into thier manipulation on trying to sweet talk you back.

Stalking/ to the extreme

Has anyone ever had their ex or partner go to the extreme by putting a recording a voice recording in your vehicle or bathroom, bedroom, anywhere so they can "try" to catch you cheating on them? My Ex was very paranoid to the point he put recordings in my car, in our bathroom, bedroom, ect just to catch me cheating on him. I have never cheated on him, nor have I ever thought about it. And to him because I was breathing hard on some of the recordings I was cheating. I couldnt tell you what I was doing that day I was probably cleaning picking up the house. possibly even using the bathroom as you can hear my 4 yr old talking to ME the entire time and no one else. As a 4yr would be curious to who is at the house and talking to them or asking me questions about the other person? Right?