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This is one of the hardest parts about leaving a toxic relationship.

This goes back to crossing your boundaries. It is one of the tactics that the toxic personality uses to gain control. I don't know if the particular person that sent this question in is still in a toxic relationship or if they've removed themselves from a toxic relationship and they're just dealing with trying to set boundaries in the aftermath of a toxic relationship. But when you set a boundary who is taking control, you are right? Can you please not eat dinner on the couch right after I vacuum the floor in the living room? You just took control of that situation. You set a boundary.

The Priority…Me!!! Retreat Is back, but this time available to any and all without travel or time off work. It Is scheduled Monday, May 13 through Friday, May 17, 2024. 

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Guest speakers include 3 of my latest podcast guest.. can you guess who?

After years of doing the up and down, back and forth, taking care of myself, giving it up for others, then back to taking care of myself, I have learned and am thankful to tell you that what I discovered was this…. I ACTUALLY HAVE WAY MORE CONTROL THAN I THOUGHT IT DID. 

When things were not going well, I would look to others to support me through it, to fix it for me, and possibly take the blame for it. However, in the end it has always been a result of me slacking in the area of self care and prioritizing myself.  The other thing that I learned the hard way was that is was MY responsibility no one else’s. (That part hurt for a while, I was tired, I didn’t want to carry it anymore…..but when you have no other option than to rely on yourself …. You will figure out a way to do it.)

 3 DAYS PUTTING MY ATTENTION BACK ON MYSELF AND wallah! 

Professional home organizer Cass Henry tells of her recent experience with decluttering her life by “throwing out” a relationship that was taking up too much space. She is an inspiration to all she encounters. Though just recently free, she is encouraging others to follow her lead and let go of the things that are cluttering up your life. Find Cass at transformedspaces.ca If you are wanting more details on the mentioned Priority…Me!!! Online retreat you can find those details along with all the other services offered by Coaching with Dr Heidi here. https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

After spending her first 40 years in the cultish Evangelical world, picking up many layers of cPTSD from family, religion and marriage. Charlotte is rebuilding her new life as a single mom of five kids (who has stopped homeschooling by the way.... tough decision) Single moms usually work, but in 2020 with complications from long covid she developed brain injuries along with some nervous system damage. She lost the entry level jobs she attempted to work and was unable to keep up with her long-time usual pace. This is a glimpse of her journey. Through an unhealthy marriage (arranged by the church) the leaving her evangelical upbringing (with its magical, mystical promises), She has learned God doesn’t pay your loans for you or stop abuse even if you make a covenant with Him. There is work to be done on your own part to break free of false hopes and lies in order to find your true self. Today Charlotte carries her message through her very own podcast "Crooked Little Girl" Take a listen: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/crooked-little-girl/id1697643420 Charlotte has been a long time listener of this podcast, It's Not Normal It's Toxic, and has been a member of my online support group for many years. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/drheidistrength Her mission is to speak on the spiritual abuse she endured and warn others of falsities within religion where the teachings are... well abusive.

Sabrina Magnan is a Food Freedom & intuitive Eating Coach who helps chronic dieters heal their relationship with food & their bodies and develop lasting health-promoting habits so that they can find true authentic health, free from the obsession and guilt. Sabrina has a website as well as a podcast if you are looking for more information. https://sabrinamagnan.com/ https://sabrinamagnan.com/podcast

In this episode I will speak with 3 people that I have gotten to know very well over the last few years, they are all members of Strength Within. "Strength Within" is the support group that I run on facebook for those seeking understanding in your situation. The 3 guest today will be answering questions about how their lives would be different today if they had not gone through what they went through. These are some strong, determined, and now happy people who once did not feels as if they were. I hope this episode is as encouraging for you as it was for me while recording. Here is the link to the "Strength Within" facebook group if you are searching for a community that understands. https://www.facebook.com/groups/drheidistrength Looking for a deep dive? All services provided can be seen here: https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page