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Will they ever change if I stay?

 I have been with my husband for several years and they have been very up and down years. My question is: 'Is there a possibility that he will change? Or do I need to just accept his faults as he should mine and we should just work on ourselves?

When will he move on??

The toxic person in my life has moved on and now has another significant other, but he is not leaving me alone. So my question is, when is he going to actually move on?

Child protection vs my freedom

My teen has general anxiety disorder. I know when her dad/my husband spirals into toxicity it makes it worse. I have always jumped in to protect them because I have learned to handle it better (and took the brunt of the emotional/verbal abuse). I have held off on divorcing him because In our state it would be 50:50 unless they have a lawyer to petition judge. They would feel worse refusing to go to dads house …not wanting to hurt his feelings. Is it emotionally better for them for me to tough it out for 3 more years until college so I can protect them most of the time… or show them strength of leaving…but when at dads house…they will not have anyone to protect them.

How do I deal with mutual friends after I leave a toxic relationship?

Can I stay friends with our mutual friends or do I have to end those relationships too?

Why won't they just let me go?

We're finally getting divorced, why can't they just let me go???